Are you:
- unable to accept the end of your marriage?
- experiencing emotions that are all over the map?
- fearful of the future?
- having trouble coping with day-to-day life?
- experiencing negative mind chatter?
- depressed, sad, angry, resentful, confused or filled with regret?
- living in denial?
- unable to see your part in this divorce?
- beating yourself up?
- feeling powerless to change?
- feeling like a failure, a reject, unlovable or unworthy?
- blaming your ex for your divorce?
- still tied to your ex emotionally?
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With the ‘95 Tips to Transform Your Life After Divorce’ you will be able to turn your life around!
When you read the 95 Tips, you will experience the following benefits…- Have you feeling better right away
- Assist you in bypassing reactive and destructive behavior
- Show you ways to calm and center yourself
- Move you towards acceptance of your divorce
95 Tips will also:
- Empower you to take back control of your life
- Raise your self-esteem and confidence
- Create a new enthusiasm and optimism for life
- Reconnect you with what is important in your life
- Show you the way to forgiveness
- Demonstrate the power of perspective
- Lead you to make self-empowering choices in your life
In Addition, 95 Tips will:
- Show you the gifts of your divorce
- Find self-acceptance and personal regard
- Show you how to overcome your fear of the future
- Show you what it takes to let go of your pain
- Reveal the path to a new and happy life after divorce
- How to change your divorce story into one of triumph
Finally, You will learn:
- How not to take everything personally
- How to combat stress and anxiety
- To trust yourself
- Highly specific tools to use immediately to allow you to handle your divorce more effectively
"Know what you do in the time of your greatest trial can be your greatest triumph. For the experience you create is a statement of Who You Are- and who You Want To Be.”
Neale Donald Walschz
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Here are a few of the powerful Tips to get you started on your own journey to a new life after divorce:
Consider your prevalent mood and attitude.
How would you describe your prevalent mood and attitude these days?
How would your friends describe it? Are you always negative? Are you angry? Depressed? Your attitude or mood is your perspective on life that dictates your future. Is your perspective a gift or a cost?
Try changing your perspective so that it serves you. Remember, your attitude not only changes the way you see things, it can also change the way things actually are! Try dropping the doom and gloom because if that is how you see things, then that is probably how life will show up for you. Choose an attitude that will serve you, not harm you.
Watch out for self-righteous positions?
Are you being self -righteous about your ex? Do you keep making him wrong and you right? Are you being high and mighty? Self righteous positions are a sure sign that you are stuck in your past and that you continue to hold onto blame. Blame makes you a victim and victims have no power. Self -righteousness means you are willing to be right at any cost!
There is a big difference between self-righteousness and righteousness. One is destructive and one contributes to the world. They are light years apart. Notice if you have any self-righteous positions. If you do, take a deep look at them and determine where they come from. Make certain you are being totally truthful and my guess is they will disappear.
Stop reactive behavior.
Our emotions can take over and cause severe damage in our lives. The right side of our brain that controls our emotions reacts much faster than the rational left side. Sometimes emotions are so quick to explode that we don’t realize we are over-reacting until we are in the midst of a reaction. Get conscious and pay attention to the cues your body sends you like tensed muscles or a fluttering heart rate.
When you notice that you are heading into your danger zone, that place where your emotions will take over and cause you to say and do things you will regret, do the following: Stop! Excuse yourself and walk away from whatever is causing the upset. Go to a quiet place and sit down and do about three minutes of deep breathing, focusing only on the physical sensations of your breath. Then visualize something or someone that brought you a deep sense of peace or joy.
Your perfect moment. Connect to that feeling. Sit with that for a minute or two. Then think abut how you want to handle the stressful situation. Take the time-out and center yourself. Don’t let your emotions and reactive behavior run the show.
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Shelley’s clients admire and respect her expertise…
Shelley has been one of the most important and influential people in my divorce process. She has given me the tools to remember that my process and healing is what is important during this critical time. Shelley always reminds me of the power of choice, and the remembrance to make empowering and affirming choices for myself at any given moment. I have quickly progressed in my grieving process and Shelley has been a very important and essential part of that progression. I will forever use and be grateful for the tools that she has offered to me.
Donna G, Glen Ridge, NJ
I don't know what I would have done without Shelley's guidance through this divorce. I felt so hopeless but she has given me the inspiration to go on. Her first hand experience of how painful a divorce can be, gives her all the knowledge a person could possibly need to help others. After my first session a sense of peace came over me and I knew with her guidance, insight, knowledge, passion and faith in me I would make it through this...I couldn't have made it without her...
Susan S, Illinois
You have given me a new insight into moving on into a much higher level, not only in my divorce but also in the way I will live each day. That knowledge is a big gift for which I will be eternally grateful. It has already made me change the way I feel about my ex...and I have significantly moved into a higher level of forgiveness.
Jo V; Phoenix, AZ
Shelley has been an incredible life coach. She has introduced me to my own power and strength so that I could fulfill my goals. In just over a year of working with Shelley, I was able to accomplish everything that I had wanted to create for myself. Shelley is an exceptional listener, nurturer and guide; she is able to "get" just what you need to hear and look at in yourself.... and set you on a healthy path. Working with her has changed my life in an unbelievable way! I am very grateful to Shelley for giving me the life tools to manifest my dreams.
Jenny G, Atlanta, GA
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"We all have big changes in our lives that are more
or less a second chance!"
Harrison Ford (1942-)
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Read the Rave Reviews from the Experts about 95 Tips: |
95 Transformational Tips by Shelley Stile offers relevant, tactical thoughts to get you through the divorce transition with peace and self-awareness. We all need a little help as embark on one of the most difficult periods in our lives and Shelley offers up just that help.
Michelle Muncy, President
ChildSharing.com/online co-parenting program.
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"95 Transformational Tips’ should be required reading for all people going through a divorce or separation. When you are feeling alone and hurt, wondering how you will ever survive your life after divorce, just start reading the words of wisdom found in this gem of a book. What I loved about this book is the bite-sized, easily digestible advice that you can put to work for you right now. You'll want to keep it handy as you rebuild your life and even beyond, because the lessons and wisdom will apply to all parts of your life. As the author says, " Your divorce is not a mistake. It is an opportunity to learn and then go on to create the life you truly want." This book can help you do that.
Katherine L. Poehnert, M.Ed.Psych.,
PCC InSight
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"95 Transformational Tips by Shelley Stile offers relevant, tactical thoughts to get you through the divorce transition with peace and self-awareness. We all need a little help as embark on one of the most difficult periods in our lives and Shelley offers up just that help."
Tracy Achen,
Editor of WomansDivorce.com
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"Divorce recovery doesn’t happen overnight. If readers can process just one tip a day – in three months they will emerge stronger, healthier, and ready to embrace their new life. Shelley’s tips are a great reminder of the power of intention and positive thinking. I highly recommend reading and re-reading this book to help focus your attention in the right direction."
Noah B. Rosenfarb, CPA, ABV, PFS, CDFA;
Accountant and Financial Advisor for Divorcing Women; www.FreedomDivorceAdvisors.com
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I found Shelley's tips to be an excellent source of strength. They provide a common sense direction for those going through this difficult time. Professionally, I know divorce can be trying and what so many people lack is direction. These tips, having come from someone who has had such a life experience, are extremely meaningful. I plan to provide the book to clients who are going through this process in the hopes that these tools may make the divorce process easier on them.
Ronee Korbin Steiner,
Attorney at Law Scottsdale, Arizona
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Shelley Stile is an accomplished, certified Divorce Recovery Life Coach with a proven track record of transforming the lives of her clients:There are proven tools and skills that you can use to help you let go and move forward into your new life after divorce!
Via her own personal experience with divorce and years of coaching clients through divorce recovery, she has assembled the most powerful and effective tips for your own healing process.
"My name is Shelley Stile and I am a professionally trained Divorce Recovery Life Coach but I am also a divorced woman myself. I have been there and I have done that!
I became a Coach after my divorce so that I could assist other people going through this huge life transition and provide them with the guidance that will allow them to handle their divorce more effectively. This is my life’s work.
'95 Tips to Transform Your Life After Divorce' are the most powerful and effective tools that I have found in my work and in my own life. They are short and sweet… and they work!
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If you incorporate them into your life you will begin the journey to take back your life after your divorce.
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How would it feel if you were able to let go of all the pain of your divorce?
Would you feel free?
Powerful?
Confident?
Happy?
Excited?
Positive?
Enthusiastic?
Optimistic?
You bet you would!
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I guarantee that this book will help transform your life from one of pain to one of renewed optimism, enthusiasm, power, direction, energy and happiness.
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$14.95
Special Limited Time Offer: Order Today and Receive a Free, private consultation with Shelley.
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Remember this:
It is not so much what life throws our way but rather how we choose to handle what life throws our way that makes the difference. In this life, we have control over one thing and one thing alone: ourselves.
"Set up as an ideal the facing of reality as honestly and as cheerfully as possible."
Dr. Karl Menninger (1893 - 1990) |
Shelley Stile 
